About

Experience Healing Through Connection and Understanding

Born 2 Connect EFT is a private-practice therapy provider owned and run by Michelle Fowler, LPC.

Treatment with Born 2 Connect EFT is based on attachment theory. When we respond to our emotional cues, and at least one other significant person in our lives responds, we experience reduced emotional distress. Research shows that strong attachments are a basic biological need, like air, food, and water. When that emotional system is either over or under responding it can disrupt our lives and damage our relationships. This can result in feelings of anxiety, depression, and distress. Therapy is a space where we can listen to the information the body is giving us and make a plan of how to respond that eases overall distress and leads to better connections and life satisfaction. Sometimes our biological makeup creates distress and it can be helpful to have additional support to therapy in the form of medication.

Process of Couple’s Therapy

Steps for Couple’s Therapy

1. Reach out and schedule an intake session or a consultation call. This consultation may be about 15 minutes to get a general idea of your concerns and purpose for wanting to start therapy at this time.
2. Schedule the intake session where both partners are present. During this session the assessment phase begins where we work on understanding what gets in the way of your effective vulnerable communication.
3. Next, each partner has an individual assessment session to better understand their goals for therapy, potential wounds, and possible challenges for therapy that may need additional support. This may include: addictive behaviors, substances, past traumas, abuse, untreated medical issues, etc. As part of the assessment, we look to understand the “attachment climate” you both grew up in and how you learned to deal with stress in relationships. Secrets are obstacles to progress and the therapist works with the couple to make sure everyone has the same information.
4. In the fourth session we again meet together and begin to work on the goal of having open and vulnerable conversations. The therapist acts as a process consultant getting curious and holding space for what happens in the room, guiding you to a different pattern.
5. With time, the couple is able to stop the negative pattern at home, repair more easily, and do what happens in the therapy room without help. Therapy progresses as quickly as the couple is able to make space for safety and vulnerability.